SAVE MY MARRIAGE
Standing Spouse
WORKSHOP
A two-day workshop for the spouse who's still fighting for their marriage, built on research and not guesswork.
2 Full Days
Online from Anywhere
Research Based
For The Standing Spouse
2 Full Days
Online from Anywhere
Research Based
For The Standing Spouse
Does this sound familiar?
- Your spouse said, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."
- There's someone else, or you're pretty sure there is.
- You've begged, pleaded, and explained, and every conversation pushes them further away.
- You check their phone, their location, or their face, looking for clues.
- Friends and family keep telling you to "just move on," and you're not ready to.
- You feel like you're losing your marriage and yourself at the same time
What this weekend is...
- A guided, educational experience made for you
- A safe place to focus on the one person you can change: you
- Built entirely on peer-reviewed research
- A weekend that ends with a real plan for the days ahead
What It Isn't...
- A therapy session
- A strategy to make your spouse come back
- A place to bash your spouse
- Judgmental
What you'll actually learn
Nine research-based sessions, worked through together over two full days, with guided exercises and assessments along the way.
When Your Spouse Wants Out
You'll walk through the stages you may be going through, from protest to surrender, and learn the difference between shutting your heart down and letting go of control while keeping hope.
The Momentum Principle
What you do affects the direction your marriage is moving. Learn the difference between pushes and pulls, why standing still isn't the same as moving toward each other, and why your pulls may not land at first even when they're working.
When Love Grabs On
When your spouse is slipping away, the instinct is to hold on tighter, but every grab becomes a push. You'll see what grabbing on looks like, including the subtle ways it shows up with the kids, family, and even faith, and what to do instead.
Checking Your Motivation and Method
Your heart can be right and your method can still be wrong. Your method can be right and your heart can still be wrong. Learn to tell a real pull from love that lands as pressure.
Why Change Takes Time
Why things often get worse before they get better, and how to track real movement month to month instead of riding every text. Don't make a permanent decision from your worst day.
Stabilize the Crisis
The first goal isn't winning your spouse back. It's stability. Learn to pause, breathe, name it, and wait before you react, and find the anchors that bring you back to center.
Right Contact
Chasing lands as pressure and going cold lands as punishment. Learn the R.I.G.H.T. way to reach out, how to respect space without reading the silence as the final verdict, and why reading their phone only pushes them further away.
Boundaries That Protect, Not Control
The difference between a boundary and a demand, what you can decide when you can't control your spouse, and how to time boundaries so they protect you and your kids without becoming another push.
Build a Life That Thrives
Reclaim your friendships, faith, purpose, and self. The goal was never just to get them back. It's to become someone who thrives, no matter what.
Every session is built on published research, including the work of Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Robert Sternberg, Dr. Arthur Aron, Dr. Harry Reis, and others, not personal opinion.
Who this weekend is built for:
THIS IS FOR YOU IF...
You want to save your marriage, and your spouse isn't on board
Your spouse has left, asked for space, or is involved with someone else
You're tired of reacting out of fear and want to respond with clarity
You're willing to give two focused days to your own healing and growth
THIS ISN'T THE RIGHT FIT IF...
There is active abuse in your home (call us and we'll connect you with a specialist instead)
You're looking for a script to make your spouse come back
You want a guarantee instead of a plan
Presented by
Melody Oseguera & Sonia Thalman
It's Not Over was founded by women who have stood in the middle of a marriage that looked like it was ending, and came out the other side. We're not coaching from a textbook. We've been in the fire ourselves, and we walk with you through it with research, honesty, and zero judgment.
Choose Your Format
Same two full days - Both formats
ONLINE WORKSHOP
$500 /person
- October 9th & 10th
- Friday & Saturday
- Anywhere
Flexible
IN-PERSON WORKSHOP
Coming Soon!
- Friday & Saturday
- Tennessee or Texas
- Contact us for upcoming dates
Spots are limited to keep every workshop personal. Prices are per couple.
What It's Not Over Clients Say...
Real words from real people
Corley C.
"When my world was flipped upside down, It's Not Over was there to help me pick up the pieces. Their wisdom and heartfelt advice were beneficial in those dark days.
For the first time in my life, I've been courageous, confident, and truly believe in myself."
Raul J.
“I recently went through a tumultuous period in my life when my wife expressed her desire for a divorce. Feeling lost and overwhelmed, I decided to seek the guidance of It's Not Over. I was fortunate enough to find Sonia & Jason who not only helped me cope with the impending separation but also provided invaluable insights into rebuilding my life."
Molly P.
"I would recommend Melody and It's Not Over to anyone who needs support in marriage, family, parenting, healing, life exploration...or even just someone to support you through whatever darkness or struggle you're facing. Melody (and It's Not Over) will show you that despite the challenges you may be facing....It's (truly) Not Over.”
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